We are what we do. We are not what we think, or what we say, or how we feel. We are what we do.
It is difficult to remove by logic an idea not placed there by logic in the first place.
My favorite therapeutic question is “What’s next?” It bypasses the self-pity implied in clinging to past traumas.
Most people know what is good for them, know what will make them feel better: exercise, hobbies, time with those they care about. They do not avoid these things because of ignorance of their value, but because they are no longer “motivated” to do them. They are waiting until they feel better. Frequently, it’s a long wait.
Life’s two most important questions are “Why?” and “Why not?” The trick is knowing which one to ask.
Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart summary
Gordon Livingston has extracted thirty bedrock truths: We are what we do. Any relationship is under the control of the person who cares the least. The perfect is the enemy of the good. Only bad things happen quickly. Forgiveness is a form of letting go, but they are not the same thing. The statute of limitations has expired on most of our childhood traumas. Livingston illuminates these and twenty-four others in a series of carefully hewn, perfectly calibrated essays
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